Not Everyone Will Like You
July 13, 2010 § 2 Comments
I love food. I love to eat. I think it’s a spiritual experience at times. I love all kinds of foods and I am always willing to try something I’ve never eaten before. I am certain that openness to food comes from my Grandmother Nikcevich, who was full-on Mozart in a kitchen. Glorious Serbian meals looking and tasting nothing like anything traditionally American. My friends would come over and say, “What the heck is that?”…”Can’t we just have hamburgers and fries, along with some Kraft Mac and Cheese?”
The woman was artist, period. But, I don’t love every food. In fact, there are two things in this world that I will not eat. One, Blue Cheese. I think it’s evil. Two, fish. Equally evil. With eyes. Fish, in any manner of preparation be it fried, smoked, baked, pickled, candied, whatever…there is nothing anyone could do to it to make me like it. Okay, complete disclosure, and this is an example of my OCD, but I will eat shellfish. Love it, by the way.
The same is true in leadership. It is a complete fallacy to believe that all of the people in which you lead will like you all the time. Or agree with you. Or to think that you’ll never get sideways with someone on your team. If we think that, then we have other issues to deal with (mainly avoidance and an inability to see things as they are).
Worse, it takes way too much energy to manage all of the small little things that someone says or doesn’t say or tweets, or that email that was worded in such a way that makes us wonder, “Is Susie trying to tell me something here?” “Is Bill mad at me?”